Love or Lust
Blue v1-21 Ch 13 2 SamDownload | Duration: 00:10:22
Lust Takes - Love Gives
v1 Amnon fell in love with beautiful Tamar, (v2) frustrated over it to the point of illness... She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible to do anything to her.
*Interesting how he thinks it's love he's in when he acts without self-control.v3-4 Amnon's shrewd cousin-friend Jonadab provided a deceptive scheme so he could isolate Tamar and get what he wanted since still he thinks he's so in love with her.
v4-6 So he pretends to be sick and gets his dad to send Tamar to him to take care of him and to bake some "special" bread.
v7-10 As his lust (1 Jn 2:16), not love, kindled, for now he is watching her every move as she prepares the "special" bread in his presence, he refuses to eat it unless she brings it into his bedroom... but as she does this he grabbed her, "Come to bed with me."
2 Pt 2:22v12-14 "Don't!" "Don't force me." "What about me? Where could i get rid of my disgrace... the king will not keep me from being married to you." But he refused to listen, he raped her.
It wasn't love AT ALL that he was in. He didn't care AT ALL about her honor, her person, her future, her emotions, her peace and safety, her virginity, nothing. He had no self-control. He lied, deceived, even schemed his own dad to get what he wanted so then after he gets who he thought he was so in love with, getting it the wrong way, even against her own will, against logic and sound reasoning that told him to wait and get married, do it the right way that would have promoted peace and friendship, trust, he instead lets his lust rule over him as he thinks ONLY about himself. But since lust is an attribute of the world and not God's Kingdom, the fruit shows up immediately to reveal what spirit Amnon really operated out from... the spirit of hate.
v15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred, "Get up and Get Out!"
*Yeah well that's what God is saying to him right now.
v16 After he used and (v21) disgraced her, she told him, "No!" "Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me." But he refused to listen (v17) calling on his personal servant, "Get this woman out of here and bolt the door after her."
He didn't want to see, hear, or face the lie he was living in so instead he strengthened himself in hate to be able to avoid facing his own evil by convincing himself the problem was on the outside of him for he then pointed that hate toward an outside target. He ruined her life and he didn't even have to do it. If he was really in love with her like he thought, he would have listened to her, respected her God-knowledge when God provided the way of escape so this evil could have been avoided once Tamar told him to wait and get married so her honor would be preserved and she wouldn't be reduced into looking like a whore. This is what love would have done. Wait for the prize. Included her in the equation. Honor, cherish, and respected her.
~Not everything in life is pretty; And not everything in life has to stay ugly.
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