What Love Language Are You?
Blue v15-18 Ex 24
Quality Time
face to face
Sitting on couch watching movie with me is not quality time. That's me, you, and our significant other. Your face in my face is when you make me feel loved most. Without the 3rd party distraction, please give your undivided attention with eye contact because it makes me feel secure and sends the message that you value me, make me important in your life because of knowing how hard it is for you to do this when it's not your love language.
Quality Timers: Alicja, Cindy, Ragena, Doris, Gabby
Words of Affirmation
excellent work
Did you notice...? Then please say something. How did i do? Please encourage me because it builds my self-worth. When you notice and say good things about the things i do it helps me open up emotionally. It's better to ask me than demand me because you'll get more from me by the way you word things. When you have a need don't make it sound like it's my need. Don't say, "I need you to go over to the job because i'm busy doing something else (that we both know is important)." This is a weird way to ask for my help. Instead, be humble and put the value on me instead of you and say, "Could you go over to the job for me cause i'm busy on this other one." This makes me feel needed. If you don't need me than don't tell me what to do. By believing in me, that i would want to help you, know that it's ok to ask me instead of tell me what to do, because it's all in the way you say it to me. It's in the way you notice what i did then also say something good about it.
Affirmationists: Mike, Jimmy, Bryan, Christy, Dad, Grandma, Erma
Acts of Service
got it all set up for you
"What have you done for me lately..." remember that song? If this is your love language, that's pretty much what you want to know. You feel loved most when somebody does something for you. When you go to church with me or wash the car, stop at store on way home from work, pouring coffee in my cup too. It's the little things that bring good things to life... makes the Light come on. This personality is always serving and feels loved most when being served back.
Servers: Mom, Carol, Tim, Mike
Physical Touch
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This is not merely referencing sex so please men don't feel your ego is being attacked when this is not your love language. There are receptors all over the body that can send the message of hostility or love after being touched. For instance, i love to play so when feeling playful, Mike could be sitting there on his chair and i'll come sit on his lap and start poking at his ribs, tickling him, or find the sensitive spot on his knee to make him squirm, but he hates it even though i'm just wanting attention and want to play, nothing sexual about it. This does not send the message of love to a person with this love language. It is interpreted as the opposite, will be rejected, and they will feel rejected themselves. So it's how you touch this person that sends the good message. What i've learned is i'm indirectly asking for my love language to be serviced, to give me some love for my love tank. We don't always know when the other person's love tank is getting low because we don't always know, just like fuel in the car, where they had to drive today and what is spending the gas, but we do know that our spouse is the first person we go for to get our love tank filled back up.
Touching: Meg, Oma
Receiving Gifts
got a present for you
Giving a gift to this personality sends the message that you were thinking about them. Makes them feel very special. Gifts are visual symbols of love to this person. When the visual symbol is not there they begin to question how much you love them. This person really wants to know you are thinking about them.
Receivers: Grandpa, Carol F.
~In Word today, can see Quality Time with Father God in the way He made Moses stay up on Mt. Sinai for 40 days. That's like spending 4dys per every command. And i'm sure He already had His thoughts together before sharing the 10 commandments with Moses so it seems like the LORD was enjoying quality time with Moses. Ex 24:15-18
Great Book: The Five Love Languages, How To Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
Quality Time
face to faceSitting on couch watching movie with me is not quality time. That's me, you, and our significant other. Your face in my face is when you make me feel loved most. Without the 3rd party distraction, please give your undivided attention with eye contact because it makes me feel secure and sends the message that you value me, make me important in your life because of knowing how hard it is for you to do this when it's not your love language.
Quality Timers: Alicja, Cindy, Ragena, Doris, Gabby
Words of Affirmation
excellent workDid you notice...? Then please say something. How did i do? Please encourage me because it builds my self-worth. When you notice and say good things about the things i do it helps me open up emotionally. It's better to ask me than demand me because you'll get more from me by the way you word things. When you have a need don't make it sound like it's my need. Don't say, "I need you to go over to the job because i'm busy doing something else (that we both know is important)." This is a weird way to ask for my help. Instead, be humble and put the value on me instead of you and say, "Could you go over to the job for me cause i'm busy on this other one." This makes me feel needed. If you don't need me than don't tell me what to do. By believing in me, that i would want to help you, know that it's ok to ask me instead of tell me what to do, because it's all in the way you say it to me. It's in the way you notice what i did then also say something good about it.
Affirmationists: Mike, Jimmy, Bryan, Christy, Dad, Grandma, Erma
Acts of Service
got it all set up for you "What have you done for me lately..." remember that song? If this is your love language, that's pretty much what you want to know. You feel loved most when somebody does something for you. When you go to church with me or wash the car, stop at store on way home from work, pouring coffee in my cup too. It's the little things that bring good things to life... makes the Light come on. This personality is always serving and feels loved most when being served back.
Servers: Mom, Carol, Tim, Mike
Physical Touch
? This is not merely referencing sex so please men don't feel your ego is being attacked when this is not your love language. There are receptors all over the body that can send the message of hostility or love after being touched. For instance, i love to play so when feeling playful, Mike could be sitting there on his chair and i'll come sit on his lap and start poking at his ribs, tickling him, or find the sensitive spot on his knee to make him squirm, but he hates it even though i'm just wanting attention and want to play, nothing sexual about it. This does not send the message of love to a person with this love language. It is interpreted as the opposite, will be rejected, and they will feel rejected themselves. So it's how you touch this person that sends the good message. What i've learned is i'm indirectly asking for my love language to be serviced, to give me some love for my love tank. We don't always know when the other person's love tank is getting low because we don't always know, just like fuel in the car, where they had to drive today and what is spending the gas, but we do know that our spouse is the first person we go for to get our love tank filled back up.
Touching: Meg, Oma
Receiving Gifts
got a present for youGiving a gift to this personality sends the message that you were thinking about them. Makes them feel very special. Gifts are visual symbols of love to this person. When the visual symbol is not there they begin to question how much you love them. This person really wants to know you are thinking about them.
Receivers: Grandpa, Carol F.
~In Word today, can see Quality Time with Father God in the way He made Moses stay up on Mt. Sinai for 40 days. That's like spending 4dys per every command. And i'm sure He already had His thoughts together before sharing the 10 commandments with Moses so it seems like the LORD was enjoying quality time with Moses. Ex 24:15-18
Great Book: The Five Love Languages, How To Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
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